I’m 21 years old and there are 2 things that I completely don’t understand… At all. And it’s all about societal perception.
1. Why is it that girls should “wait”
2. Why is it looked down upon a female when she has casual sex, or event more than a very small number of sexual partners?
In regards to number 1, why should we wait? I understand that many females do so until marriage for religious reasons… But why? Why would god want you to abstain from sex only to turn around and allow you to have it with your “true love” but all that ends up happening is that your in withering pain the entirety of your honeymoon and literally have no idea what you’re doing? You yourself is experiencing no joy, no happiness, just a bunch of awkward pain with your “one”. Why would god want this? I feel like a honeymoon should be enjoyable sex between a man and a women. It should be a fun, loving experience that feels good and is full of joy, and passion, and most importantly the goodness of feeling love and being one with your lover who is now officially your husband. To me, option b seems like a better route. Wouldn’t god want you to feel good on your honeymoon? Wouldn’t he want you to experience pleasure and to pleasure your lover? Wouldn’t he want you to be confident in yourself and know what your doing vs feeling awkward and being in pain?
I understand waiting to a certain extent… As in waiting for your first time to be with a boyfriend or even a really good friend. I think it is important for a girls first time to be with someone she can trust, but after that… Waiting doesn’t seem necessary. The only reason why I say wait to be with someone you trust is so nothing is awkward when you do it for the first time. Losing it to a stranger would just be weird. So, saving it to marriage or even until your first serious boyfriend when your 25 just seems a little extreme.
Looking at number 2, why are girls judged for liking sex? It’s a horrible and cruel social outlook, especially with the sexual endeavors of men being looked at the complete opposite if a girls. This has been something argued for a long time and the basic question still remains, why?
A male that goes a bangs the entire cheer leading squad is looked at by a hero, but a girl that hits 4 football players is immediately a football groupie whore. Why? Why is it that a guys number could be in the 50s but a girls number past like 10 is shunned? No freaking idea.
The way I see it - sex is fun. Sex is sex. A physical act. At least for me, where no feelings are attached, nor have ever been attached, it really is just that - a physical act that feels good. Why does sex always have to mean something? Why is it such a big deal? Why are we supposed to do it with someone that means something, with someone that actually gives a shit? Idk. The way I see it… As long as a girl protects herself from pregnancy and stds then why does it matter what she does in the bedroom? Who is it hurting?
Even more so… If a girl has casual sex and doesn’t tell the entire world about it, and keeps it on the DL, is she really a whore? I look at whores as girls that sleep with A BUNCH of guys and EVERYONE knows. The girls I look at as whores are girls that I don’t know…. But I know much of their sexual endeavors. If a girl can keep what she does secret, cant she still have fun, casual sex and not be a whore? If she doesn’t walk around with her tits out in your face all day but still have sex… Is she still a whore? I don’t think so. If she can carry herself as a classy person with her priorities in the right place, but just secretly have a bedroom life, who the hell is to look down on her? Who the hell is to call her a whore? But more so- why does she even have to keep this a secret.
Why does a girls number define if she is a whore or not? If she conducts herself okay in public, if she has a positive life going for herself, WHY DOES IT MATTER?? We all judge. We hear a number and were like DAMN, SHE IS A WHORE. But is she really? Does a number really define if she is a whore? I don’t think it should. I just think the whole thing is stupid.
I think that if a girl wants to have sex, she should damn well have sex with whoever she pleases without judgement. The world needs to stop giving a fuck who a girl is sleeping with and focus more on their own life.
Me, I look at sex as a game. As a conquest. I have my goals, I have my prey, and I sort forth with my life looking to succeed with my goals. Once a goal is accomplished I am proud, then move on to the next. It’s just a fun little game for me. It’s not special, it’s not emotional, it is just a game. And I’m completely fine with this game… Because it saves me a whole lot of heartache and issues that I watch my friends deal with.